Most remember their first introduction to the term
“time-out.” And it wasn’t at a sporting
event. Unless you call putting gum in
another’s hair a sport. I actually can’t
speak from childhood experience here, as my folks weren’t ones to waste energy touring
“Time-Out Island” on their way to visit “Spanking Mountain.”
However, as a parent, I used time-out some with my boys. It worked with Child Number 3, who would rather
see his fingernails pulled off than miss any outdoor activity…including putting
gum in another’s hair. But, Child Number
1…well, let’s just say that when I finally remembered he was in time-out an
hour after I had stuck him there for “just 10 minutes,” he was well into Act
III of “Finger People Go to the Zoo.” He
asked if he could stay in “time-out” just a little bit longer. You know, to finish the show, allow for
curtain calls and such. I obviously had
to come up with another form of consequence for that child.
Lately, I’ve been pondering other kinds of time-outs we humans
may experience in our existence. Like, when we’re trying to finish college so
we can get on with “real” life. When we’re
losing a job and anxiously wondering when the next one will come along. How about waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right? Big time-out for some, I know. And there’s being patient for that child we
may be longing for. Or, maybe even
feeling sidelined by the children we do have…like life is on hold until they
get “bigger.”
I’ve been in sort of a time-out myself for the past several
months. Reevaluating my priorities and what I really want to spend my days
accomplishing. Taking the time to
appreciate my family, and then taking the time to make sure they know I love
them more than the other things that constantly vie for my affections. My
time-out also caused me to take a break from sharing via blogger-land some of
the cool truths God encourages me with here in my home. The home I laughingly and lovingly refer to
as my “cave.”
Well, the whistle has been blown and this time-out for me is
over. And while I’m thankful to get back
in the game, chewing gum and blogging…it was truly a good break. One that made me realize my passion has never
been stronger for encouraging others to see these things we call “time-outs” as
quite often blessings in disguise. Times
to realize…or maybe just remember…who we are and what we should be doing.
Much like the outcome we expect when we stick a toddler in
the corner of a room.
KyAnne,
ReplyDeleteWhat an encourager you are. Glad your time-out is over!
Leaona
Thanks, Leaona! Me, too!
ReplyDeleteKyAnne, after just sending home (reunifying) two foster kids age 8 and 10 we've used some alternative ways to dicipline (which we sent along with the parents) Like saying "I would hate to have to give someone else your ...for doing your chores for you." (fill in the blank ie: allowance,cookie,muffin) or "You'll have to lose electronics privileges tonight while the others play, for that behavior". or "you'll have to be really good to earn that privilege back today." Oh we'll miss them, are already, even though they were quite a handful. Anyway, enjoyed your blog :-) Blog on, Steve
DeleteGod bless you guys for loving on these kids who so need it! Thanks for reading and for your support!
DeleteWelcome back, KyAnne! Been missing you!
ReplyDeleteBecky
Been missing you, too! Hope things are well in MO!
DeleteKyAnne, Your world is miles away. Who ever dreamed we would have opportunity to be words on a page away. Some things about technology are fantastic!!!!!!!!!!! I enjoyed your blog about time out isn't just for toddlers. Wow!
ReplyDeleteYour words about reevaluating priorities and what I really want to spend my days accomplishing is so important and hard to accomplish. It reminds me of the things that are immediate and important. How do I get to the most important when the immediate things are taking up all my time. I'm continually praying on this note. Thanks. Elaine Ashley
Thanks for the kind words, Elaine! My prayer is to just be an encouragement! While you're praying - please pray for me, too!
DeleteSo happy your blogging again.
ReplyDeleteCarol
Me, too! Thanks so much!
DeleteSo glad to have your fun and encouraging words back on my blog roll, Kyanne! Looking forward to hearing what God is speaking to your heart these days!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Karen! So thankful for your support!
DeleteKyAnne, Just have to say that your profile is hilarious! You are such a funny fun girl. I'm sure that's why I like you so much. Sending blessings your way from the Ashley family!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Elaine! Not everyone appreciates the funny, I'm sure...but, I know it's how God wired me to relate to people! Hopefully, after all the laughs - which are so good for the soul - people understand the abundant joy that comes from knowing God's love. :)
DeleteKyAnne... Totally true. Sometimes a time out is given to us by God a place for us to learn a lesson or two before we get back on the road He wants us on. I thought I didn't want to teach anymore, so God gave me a "time out" job... it made me realize I DO want to teach and I've got to get back to that calling. It's always good when we learn what we're supposed to learn during a time out.. hopefully I won't be in the time out chair for long. Blessings to you, K!
ReplyDeleteI'll be praying for you as you make your way back to teaching! May God give you wisdom, guidance and abundant favor in this journey! I reentered the world of teaching just a couple of years ago, so I understand where you're at! You can do it! Keep me posted on your progress!
ReplyDeleteWell...my time out is over with drawing and painting, which I have always wanted to do, but of course with 5 children and know 8 grandchildren I am still very busy. My time is spent with people encouraging oral health as well as systemic as well as seeing all my family as much as I can,hugging,laughing and sharing God's love. What a good life and what a good friend you are...cavewomen. Love u lots, Vicki
ReplyDeleteYou're awesome at hugging, laughing and sharing God's love, girl! Looking forward to seeing some drawing and painting in there soon, too! Thanks for dropping by my cave! Love ya!
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