Tuesday, February 19, 2013
When "Those Kids" are Your Kids...
Yep, to the strangers around our clan that day...I was a parent to some of "those kids."
You know "those kids." They are the ones who run through the mall unattended, or the ones who kick the back of your seat on the airplane. Grrr. "Those kids" drive most of us nuts. Even when they're "our kids."
My hubby and I have done are darnedest to not raise anything resembling "those kids." And for the most part, thanks be to God on High, "our kids" have typically not been "those kids." But, trust me...there have been "times."
For instance, the demon-possessed-like fit the middle one threw in front of the Baskin-Robbins' display case, because that particular store wasn't carrying his favorite flavor. He was two...but, still! The older brother...actually the oldest brother...all four-years-old of him...just stood there, dumbfounded. Staring at me and telepathically screaming, "Are you kidding me?! Parent-up!"
There was the time all three boys started crying, for some random reason, while crammed in a shopping cart in the middle of Safeway. Loudly. Hysterically. Maybe they all started crying because they were all three crammed in a shopping cart in the middle of Safeway. I never got a real answer, and though 1.5 of them were old enough to actually speak in full sentences, I still got nothing. Regardless, no one could deny the fact that at that moment, they were "those kids."
A point? Well, I have a few.
1) We've not only had "those kids" before, we've most likely been "those kids" before.
2) We have to differentiate between "those kids" and those "kids." Meaning...sometimes kids are just being kids. Joyfully so, I might add. Like in my picture. Don't go to the family pool if you don't want a little, friendly, family chicken fight! Also, don't go to McDonald's for a romantic dinner. There will be kids there, most likely being kids. Just sayin'.
3) When kids are being the annoying or disrespectful kind of "those kids," well, we have to be brave enough to be "those adults." Wise adults. Brave and wise enough to confront behaviors that may be harmful to our children...not to mention those around them.
I have been a kid. I have had kids. I teach kids. A total lack of respect amongst the young is on the rise...at an alarming rate. I have found myself, for years, praying for God to help me know when kids need loving correction, and when kids need me to simply chill out.
I'm still praying.